If you weren’t you, would you want to be friends with yourself?

What is your vibe? Take a moment to assess yourself and the vibe you give off. 

Here’s the definition, according to Merriam-Webster: 

Vibe: a distinctive feeling or quality capable of being sensed

This distinctive feeling that others can sense from you is vital to your success. I believe when you possess a high energy vibe, you are more likely to get the results you want because you can inspire and motivate the people around you. The more people enjoy being around you and the vibe you give off, the more influence you have. 

A Balanced Vibe

A high energy vibe is important, but having a balanced vibe is even more crucial. Knowing when to crank up the high energy and when to dial it down is vital for leading a successful team. 

If you know when to increase and decrease your energy, you can make yourself more approachable and a more attractive person to be around. This makes you easier to work with, and it allows others to gain your trust faster.

One major element that is required in order to balance your vibe is self-awareness. It’s important to know what role you need to fill in different moments. When inspiration and motivation are needed, bring your energy to the room; crank it up. Once people are inspired, it’s time to take a step back and dial your energy down. At this point, you have entered the supportive role where less is more when it comes to energy. 

Control Your Emotions by Identifying Them

The best way I have found to control your emotions is to be mindful of what you are feeling throughout the day. Have a check-in with yourself every few hours or after a big event has occurred (e.g., a presentation, a crucial conversation, a new opportunity). If you forget to check in with your emotions, you risk your emotions getting the best of you. You might redirect these emotions outward to the people around you, which could end poorly or misaligned, leaving people confused. 

As a leader, it is crucial for you to assess your emotions and discover a healthy way to deal with them. An excellent resource for helping you learn how to identify your emotions and communicate in a compassionate way toward others and yourself is a book by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD, called Nonviolent Communication.

When you learn how to identify your feelings and discover your needs, you can become a more authentic and connected leader. This is a skill you can then teach your team, which will help you foster a greater sense of community and help you get the results you want faster. 

The more connected to your emotions and the vibe you give off, the more confident you can be about answering our original question: “If you weren’t you, would you want to be friends with yourself?” You will have the self-awareness needed to know when your high energy vibe is needed and when you need to dial it down.